Is life so simple? Can we control our experiences?
I stumbled upon the above quote and got a lot of positive energy from it but a thought immediately crossed my mind…what if some experiences are not positive? What if positive feelings are not reciprocated?
All people are not alike. There may be such persons in your life who are always trying to find some reason to irritate you and spread unpleasantness.
Some of them are around us all the time, in the form of our family members or colleagues.
Have you ever given a thought that negative experiences leave a deep impact on us? It is very difficult to forget them whereas positive people just pass by and are easily overlooked or taken for granted.
Life does not remain positive at all times. It is at such a challenging and grim time that positive thoughts lose their track.
This mind is so strange. It also gets distracted from its positive path.
What drives negativity? Why is it so easy to jump into this messy pool?
People! Some people are selfish. They have their own designs; their ulterior motives can never be understood. Some are arrogant, they disseminate negative vibes; they always try to put you down. Some have narcissistic traits; their presence in your life can be quite detrimental. Some are manipulative; they try to exploit your goodness.
I know many such people.
People are like an ocean! Understanding them is like diving into an ocean.
Some deep, some so shallow!
Some never come to the shore some never leave it.
If you are fortunate, you might find a pearl!
Human behavior is quite intriguing, oscillating between darkness and light.
The values, emotions and the virtues are ingrained in human soul but at the same time the vices that ensnare us can easily sway our integrity. Hurts can lead us astray.
Lack of guidance, injustice and disappointments bring out the worst behavior.
Teasing, bullying, violence, intolerance, wreaking vengeance and driving others to take the extreme step of committing suicide in modern societies seems to be an addition to human behavior.
A new negativity? However, it is possible that it lurked there in some other unfamiliar form.
Human behavior has chiefly been influenced by society, culture, region and religion, which has strengthened with time. There have hardly been any significant changes in the core values and ethics that have guided it.
Fear and insecurity may bring some changes in human behavior but only for a short period of time.
Despair and disillusionments follow us everywhere. They also change our behavior. How do we react?
Disappointments often intimidate us but if we keep talking to the hopeful aspect of our mind, if we refuse to let our mind be clogged with the fear of failures, if we embrace the tenacity of our positive spirit, we can strengthen this sentiment and pass it on to our children who exemplify true hope.
Have you ever felt the power of positive spirit?
If disenchantments follow you, learn to cultivate hope, which is an inborn virtue. It lies dormant if it is not nurtured.
Observe a child carefully and you will see an amazing amount of resilience and hope for achieving even the unattainable. A child may fall or fail but the efforts to learn new things never wane. It is the inherent quality of hope and happiness, which keeps children going robustly towards their goal.
As their little feet start growing, hope grows within them. Each step they take, each game they play, this hope becomes sounder.
No child ever thinks of losing. Cynicism is unknown to them. Little failures may dishearten them for a while but they start again with renewed efforts. It is the hope that carries them forward to catch happiness.
Hope fills enthusiasm in their efforts. They look forward to their parents for encouragement and reassurance to accomplish their little goals. When they see happiness on their faces, their spirit soars further. Hence a positive approach and support nurtures hope and happiness.
Hope and happiness are so interconnected!
It is the hope of being successful which leads us to it and happiness follows effortlessly. While conscious efforts are required for all that we hope to accomplish, happiness just meets us on the way to success.
I have had many such experiences, which have shaken my positive spirit but I have always bounced back by convincing myself that this is just a passing phase, by reminding myself that all people are not positive.
What are your reflections about meeting positive people? What impact have they made on you?
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Balroop Singh.
Emotional Shadows 