Tag: positivity
The Amazing Power Of Relationships
It’s been almost 20 days since I have been away from my new home in U.S…the one I don’t love as much as I do this one, where everything is lying scattered now, not just my dreams and memories but even books, clothes, curtains and sundry other articles I had collected with panache…
I am in the process of salvaging my old treasures, which I had buried in this home, thinking I’ll live here forever till my last journey into the oblivion but could never imagine life could turn tables on me like this!
Once again relationships have won. Love for material possessions and homes we build by putting our heart and soul into decorating them according to our taste crumble in front of relationships.
Once again I chose love, love for my grandchildren proved to be more powerful than all my possessions…once again I have taken a bold decision, once again I am broken inside as am leaving this home too, so dear to my heart.
I left my first home when I got married and I have written about those overwhelming emotions. With time I reconciled with the hurricanes of life and found happiness in putting together strings to build my own nest, this home, which I nurtured with love.
Why don’t we give a thought to the realities that all nests get frittered away with the tide of time? Mine was no exception though I gave all I had to it.
The vibrations of my home have been reminding me of those blissful days I have spent here. What fills me with delight is that I can only recall the happy times. Probably my home was always filled with positive vibes. I let them float around; I wish I could close my fists to hold them but I let them go and they carried me along into alien lands.
It is time to move on. It is time to do away with superfluous possessions. It is not easy…I have been talking to myself for days, trying to convince the emotional aspect of my mind Ah! Mind (my dear friend Hariod made me understand the enigma of thoughts) …
All things are transitory…stagnant waters don’t allure…flowing water is fresh and exciting…flow! flow… I tell myself, life is like that…detachments and attachments are old pals, they love to meet, embrace and soar with the wind.
My family portrait stares at me…wont you carry me along? Too big, I say.
The books and trophies won by my girls remind me how much I love them…’too many,’ I say and put them in a trunk in the hope that my grandchildren would find them one day and share the pride of their grandma.
20 more days left for sorting out and leaving, hoping to return to feel and touch those few priceless things I am leaving behind, locked within the confines of four walls…for home is where love is and right now my most loved possessions are my grandchildren. I am happy my husband agrees and shares this sentiment.
Hope is the key…hope is the only solace, it keeps us thriving.
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Balroop Singh.
I Learnt To Be Positive On The Way…
I have always dared, dared to speak out my mind, dared to take my own decisions, dared to quit whenever I wanted to.
It was not easy and it wasn’t permitted. Yes! Permissions have to be taken… sadly at each and every aspect of life!
People like to hold you back because they want to control you; they could be insecure or jealous. They restrict your decisions to remain all-important in your life. You like to listen to them thinking they could be right, they could be your well-wishers but the reality could be quite different and you may never even know what made them hold you back from pursuing your own dreams, taking your own decisions and acquiring confidence.
Self belief:
There was a time when I didn’t trust myself but a strong self-belief kept me going till I discovered all the distrust factors were external, that they were not my own fears, they were created. When the realization dawned, I was amazed at my strength and conviction.
Intuition:
There is no doubt that it built over the years but all those controlling factors endowed me with an intuition beyond imagination. They contributed to my fortitude and determination to forge ahead.
Decisiveness:
I dared to resign my first job out of my own desire to set up my home and look after my child. I did that for my own happiness but it took me far beyond…I could spend blissful moments with my child, nurturing her impressionable years, adding joy to her infancy with my presence and those memorable moments stand before me now and smile at my scoffers who condemned my irresponsible decision of quitting a very secure job.
Candor:
I could never wear a mask to please others; I could never pay a compliment if the words didn’t emerge from my heart; I could never be pressurized to follow the crowd.
I would reiterate that it is not easy. You get disliked and judged, people assume you are arrogant and may even shun you. My mettle steered me through those challenges and I could find some gems in the form of loving friends who understand me and admire me for what I am.
Resilience:
I was never ashamed of my critics. I learnt from them not to judge without really understanding people.
I didn’t flinch when people picked on me; tried to bully me into believing what they think was right. I learnt to be kind and empathetic.
I refused to show my tears to the world for treating me harshly. I learnt to be resilient and shared my agonies with the trusted few.
I poured my heart into poetry and got acquainted with another aspect of my own self, lying latent within me.
I emerged stronger than my own self and was amazed at the power we have within us to deal with the tribulations of life.
All because I dared and I am proud of that.
Balroop Singh.
Protected: Seeking the key
What Is Love?
I have written about many emotions but the basic emotion, which we are born with, which we crave for in all its forms has escaped my attention or I have consciously avoided it.
Probably I know very less about it.
I have written a few lines about ‘Eternal Love ‘and ‘Unknown Love’ but it is easier to write poetry and leave much to the imagination and interpretation of the reader. Many times imagery conveys all we want to say.
When my dearest friend Zeenat Merchant Syal @ Positiveprovocations invited me to contribute my thoughts to a mega post on love, I realized I have never written about love – the most coveted emotion!
I had to go back in time to answer a host of questions that swarmed up around me.
Why has love been such a petrifying emotion for me?
I can relate so much to one of the protagonists of my stories…the little girl who yearned only in her dreams, alone.
She could never share her emotions and aspirations and hurts.
She only watched and absorbed. Is that I?
Love for her was just a passing thought, a mirage that could only be seen in the movies. It was not real. It was never around her. She could never touch or feel it.
A hug or an endearing word was not meant for her.
The society in which she lived didn’t give any importance to expressing it openly. Falling in love was equivalent to falling in a well. Romantic love was offensive. Sex was a repugnant word!
Love was caring for others but only those who were valuable to the society.
Love was sacrifice…giving all your time and effort for the welfare of others.
Love was thinking what she was expected to think.
Love was listening and complying with all the diktats of the family and the society.
Self-love was taboo. It was being selfish.
Till she realized love is much more than all this, which had been drilled into her mind. Till she decided to break free and get access to free thoughts.
Till she realized love is an invisible force that can transcend all the barriers.
Till she found true love… Till she came across what Leo Buscaglia says: “Love is life…and if you miss love, you miss life.”
When you are restricted to think and express yourself freely, you get accustomed to a certain behavior, which is hard to alter. So the exquisite emotion of love got lost in those oppressive man-made alleys of sanctimoniousness.
I am glad my favorite protagonist has helped me understand why I couldn’t fathom such a beautiful word.
Love is a natural instinct that grows if it is nurtured. It evolves itself but withers if it is not watered with affection, care, respect and kindness. Romantic love morphs into a loving and eternal relationship if we understand what is love; why passion is such a sweet word.
Love is a much wider term… encompassing friendship, family and bonding.
Recently a very old friend and neighbor called me, excited beyond words to explain how he found my number, why he still values my friendship and yearns to meet me to renew those memories! He didn’t even know my name, all he could remember was my nickname. I know that is certainly ‘love!’
“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and a richness to life that nothing else can bring.” –Oscar Wilde
Have you explored the positive power of love? Did it enrich your life? I am eagerly waiting for your answers.
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Balroop Singh.
Emotional Shadows 