Tag: self-reflection

My Promise Of Becoming A Better Person…

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Last year when I was intrinsically inspired by the resolutions of my blogger friends, I had made just one promise and that was ‘to become a better person.’

This one thought ushered in a host of memories, which revealed to me my true self and I felt the need to record some of my struggles with the enhancement of my personality.

It was not an easy endeavor as many of those memories were fraught with fears of facing monsters lurking around me but the way I have dealt with them single-handedly, removing all the cobwebs in which I was trapped has convinced me that there is always a light shimmering at the horizon.

As the curtain was coming down on another year, I got the opportunity to introspect… how much could I come up to my expectations?

The definition of being a ‘Better Person’ could be different for all of us but I had set 6 benchmarks, which I have been working on.

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I am delighted to tell you that a single resolution has helped me immensely in putting together my observations and experiences in the form of a book, which I am ready to release. Some of the chapters are the same that I have shared with you but this book is for all those readers who don’t come regularly to read my blog and even those who would like to ascend the steps of personality building, one by one.

My conviction is that self-help is the best kind of help as teachers and therapists can only show us the way. We have to move ahead with our own steps, if we stumble and stagger, we have to rise with our own efforts in whatever journey we undertake.

When I self-published my first book, I was not a blogger and was unaware of the challenges of wading into the realms of publication. Ignorance is bliss and so I didn’t even realize where I could have floundered!

Then I discovered blogging! The happiness of sharing my emotions and reflections was enough to keep me afloat! On the way I met some wonderful blogger friends who guided and supported me with their wisdom and expertise. Some even reviewed my books.

My thoughts go back to some of my oldest blogger friends Vishnu, Harleena Singh, Marie, Lisa and Somali, who stood by a newbie to offer valuable advice and reviews. Alka went a step further by uploading one of my books’ cover on her blog to help me in its promotion. Christy invited me to tea at her blog to talk about my poetry. Dear friends, I take this opportunity to express my gratitude once again and look forward to your support this time again.

I have many lovely author cum blogger friends whom I met recently and would request all of them to be a part of this endeavor.

Please spread the word. Share this post at your blogs and all the social networks please.

Give a shout out to your friends who would like to become a better person.

My book is now live at Amazon.com

You can click on the link to look inside or grab your copy.

Thank you for reading this. I look forward to your love and support.

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Balroop Singh.


 

Inconsistency Defines Your Behavior

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ConsistencyAs we head towards the end of this year, one aspect of our personality we must analyze is consistency. Lets pause for two minutes and focus on how consistent we have been in the promises we made to ourselves, during this year.

“I’m inconsistent, even to myself.”-Bob Dylan

This term, ‘inconsistency’ has often irritated me, displeased me and exasperated me! Ironically it has also made me patient, tolerant and understanding. It has taught me the significance of regularity.

What is inconsistency? It is not being consistent in principles and conduct. It is not staying the same throughout. It is changing your behavior according to the given situation. Slowly inconsistency becomes a habit.

While we can work towards eliminating this habit, I have seen people push it under the carpet and deny that they have ever been inconsistent. Life itself is inconsistent, so are relationships.

Let me explain with the help of a very small example:

My friend who has been planning to lose weight keeps planning! She is waiting for the right time; she feels she would start when she is a bit free; she wants to start in the holidays and even does. But she comes up with ten excuses when you ask her why she is not consistent.

Her excuses are:

  • “My son is unwell. He needs me.
  • I have no time. My work keeps me occupied all day.
  • I have so many responsibilities. I feel so tired.
  • I have cramps in my legs. I have to wait for a few days till I feel fine.
  • The gym is so cramped…I have to change my time. I don’t like the instructor.
  • I think my priorities are different than yours.”

While we can dismiss this example with a lighthearted laughter, we need to understand that consistency defines our personality and in order to nurture relationships, accomplish our goals and earn respect, we need to be consistent.

“It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It’s what we do consistently.”–Anthony Robbins

 Consistency is very demanding. Aldous Huxley may have said: “Consistency is contrary to nature, contrary to life…” But we are the ones who have to mold our lives and we can change its course only if we are consistent in our efforts.fullsizeoutput_416f

Demands of consistency:

  • Our actions should be in harmony with our values.
  • We must uphold our principles in all situations.
  • We treat all people with the same respect that we expect from them.
  • We need to maintain our integrity even during difficult times.
  • We have to come up to the expectations of others.

Our actions reveal our values and principles. If we don’t follow them consistently, we give out a clear message that we are faking our relationships. It is our behavior that exhibits what lies within us.

“Without consistency there is no moral strength”- Owen

When I think of impressive personalities, consistency seems to be the most important requirement. We may feel more detached and free in today’s world, dedication and sincerity may appear to be a bit outdated but they are still revered and valued.

Consistency of principles and conduct give a distinctive shape to our personality. When we don’t change our behavior in the midst of crisis, under pressure or due to threats, when the influence of circumstances doesn’t crush us or change us, we can call ourselves consistent.

Consistency in relationships is the key to happiness and serenity. All relationships need an assurance, an assertion and an affirmation that they can be banked upon. Consistency lends that much needed emotional mortar to firm our relationships.

Consistent parents raise happy and healthy children and make a positive mark on their ever-evolving personality.

Dedication and sincerity are the offshoots of consistency, which align our actions with our concepts.

Just consider what consistency can do:

  • Consistency of thoughts evolves us into a better person. Even if our thoughts happen to be negative at times, they are shoved away by being positive and consistent.
  • Consistency of beliefs leads us through the darkest tunnels of our mind. Trust speaks to us during those disappointing moments to focus on positive aspects of life.
  • Consistency of values makes us a luminous personality. It makes us as tall and as bright as the lighthouse. People notice that consistency and get inspired.
  • Consistency of upright behavior endears us to all our acquaintances and friends who know that they can pin their hope on us.
  • Consistency of affirmative outlook sends a positive message to all those around us.
  • Consistency of diet, exercise and meditation keeps us healthy and fit.

Why are we inconsistent? After careful analysis, I have tried to comprehend a few reasons:

We lack the will. We are lazy. We procrastinate. We may be having confusing principles. We may be selfish and self- centered. Allow Yourself To Be A Better Person

Have you ever tried to analyze the reasons of inconsistency? Are you consistent in your work, behavior and relationships? You can share your valuable thoughts here.

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– Balroop Singh